Future  You:  How  to Bargain  with  the  Future to  Become  Your  Best  Self
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

Future You: How to Bargain with the Future to Become Your Best Self

Discover how to build a relationship with your future self using Stoic wisdom and modern psychology. Learn practical tools like future self-journaling, the 10-10-10 rule, and the identity filter to make choices today that align with your best self tomorrow. Start closing the gap between who you are and who you want to be.

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Self-Pity in Recovery: A Trauma-Informed Perspective
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

Self-Pity in Recovery: A Trauma-Informed Perspective

Explore a trauma-informed perspective on self-pity in early recovery. Rather than labeling it a character defect, this article reframes self-pity as a protective response to unresolved grief and attachment wounds, offering a more compassionate and integrated path to healing, accountability, and lasting change.

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Consistency,  Outrage,  and the  Mirror
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

Consistency, Outrage, and the Mirror

A Stoic reflection on political discourse, selective outrage, and consistency in public values. This article explores how emotional reactivity undermines truth and examines modern issues through the lens of Stoicism to promote integrity over partisanship.

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Breaking  the  Cycle:  Recognizing  Codependency  and  Enabling  in  Relationships
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

Breaking the Cycle: Recognizing Codependency and Enabling in Relationships

Codependency and enabling can keep addiction alive by shielding loved ones from consequences. Protecting, keeping secrets, making excuses, or avoiding the topic may feel like support—but it often fuels addiction. Breaking free means setting firm boundaries, following through, and practicing detachment with love. Learn how to recognize enabling behaviors and foster healthier relationships.

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Healing  from  Childhood  Trauma:  A  Guide  for   Adult  Children  of ADDICTION AND DYSFUNCTION
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

Healing from Childhood Trauma: A Guide for Adult Children of ADDICTION AND DYSFUNCTION

Growing up with an alcoholic parent leaves lasting emotional scars. Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACoAs) often struggle with anxiety, self-doubt, and unhealthy coping mechanisms. Healing begins by understanding past trauma, unlearning survival patterns, and nurturing the inner child. Learn how ACA meetings, recovery principles, and self-compassion can help break the cycle and foster lasting growth.

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free  won’t:  using your  prefrontal  cortex  veto
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

free won’t: using your prefrontal cortex veto

Are our choices truly our own—or are they shaped by fate and unconscious brain processes? This post explores the debate between free will and determinism, weaving together Stoic philosophy, neuroscience, and practical tools to build self-awareness, agency, and moral responsibility in everyday life.

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From  Scorekeeping  to Radical  Generosity: Rethinking  Modern Relationships
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

From Scorekeeping to Radical Generosity: Rethinking Modern Relationships

Ditch fairness and embrace radical generosity with the 80/80 marriage model by Kaley and Nate Klemp. Learn how to move beyond scorekeeping, redefine roles, and deepen connection—both emotionally and sexually. Build a thriving relationship based on teamwork, transparency, and shared success.

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Allowing Your Emotions: Why Feeling is the First Step Toward Healing
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

Allowing Your Emotions: Why Feeling is the First Step Toward Healing

Feeling overwhelmed by emotions? You're not alone. This article explores why allowing emotions—not avoiding them—is key to healing. Learn how emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and vulnerability can help you break the cycle of suppression and reconnect with your authentic self. Start feeling to begin healing.

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The Stoics on Forgiving and releasing a grudge
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

The Stoics on Forgiving and releasing a grudge

Epictetus teaches that when others do wrong, we should respond with understanding, not anger. He believed harmful actions come from ignorance, not malice. By practicing empathy and self-control, we align with Stoic values and maintain inner peace, even in the face of injustice or offense.

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Breaking  Free  from  the King  Baby  Syndrome  in  Recovery
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

Breaking Free from the King Baby Syndrome in Recovery

Learn how the King Baby syndrome sabotages addiction recovery and emotional growth. Discover the traits, inner conflict, and recovery tools needed to overcome this immature ego state and embrace lasting sobriety through humility, self-awareness, and 12-Step principles.

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