Reconnect

and Grow Together

Who Benefits from Couples Counseling?

✔ You struggle to communicate or feel unheard
✔ Arguments repeat without resolution
✔ Trust has been broken and you’re unsure how to repair it
✔ Emotional or physical intimacy feels distant
✔ You want to strengthen your relationship before marriage

If any of these sound familiar, you’re not alone—and change is possible.

With the right support, couples can break old patterns and rebuild connection.

My Approach: A Structured 20-Session Roadmap

I use an integrated 20-session relationship model I developed to give couples a clear and predictable path forward. It combines Gottman Method, DBT emotional-regulation tools, Adlerian personal responsibility, Brené Brown’s vulnerability work, and Internal Family Systems (IFS). The roadmap moves through five phases — assessment, communication skills, reconnection, deeper healing, and long-term maintenance — so you always know the direction and purpose of the work.

It’s structured, but flexible. You get a grounded process without feeling boxed in.

Gottman Method

The Gottman Method is grounded in decades of research on what makes relationships succeed or fail. It identifies harmful patterns like criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling, and teaches specific antidotes for each. You’ll learn practical tools to de-escalate conflict, repair after fights, and keep connection strong. This work also emphasizes building friendship, trust, and intimacy—so your relationship isn’t just surviving, it’s thriving.

Healthy, fulfilling relationships don’t just happen—they’re built with awareness, intention, and daily practice. Couples counseling provides the skills, awareness, and support to help you create the connection you both deserve.

Healthy Boundaries & Personal Responsibility

My approach blends modern Adlerian psychology with the timeless principles of Stoicism—the idea that peace comes from focusing on what’s within your control and releasing what isn’t. In relationships, that means learning to separate what truly belongs to you—your reactions, choices, and integrity—from what belongs to your partner. You may have seen this expressed online as the “Let Them” theory: let people act how they act, let them show you who they are. The work is in managing your own response, not their behavior.

When couples stop trying to fix or police each other, blame softens and respect grows. You learn to stand on your own side of the street, communicate from self-awareness instead of reactivity, and create space for genuine accountability and trust. This framework encourages mutual responsibility without control—and it’s often the moment real connection begins.

Imago/Psychodynamic Relationship Therapy

Imago work helps couples see how old wounds from childhood often reappear in adult relationships. That’s why conflicts can feel so familiar and repetitive—it’s the past echoing in the present. Together, we uncover those deeper roots so you can understand what’s really driving your reactions. With that awareness, conflict shifts from a battleground into an opportunity for healing, intimacy, and deeper connection.

Internal Family Systems (IFS / Parts Work)

IFS (Internal Family Systems) helps couples recognize that we’re not just “one self” but made up of many inner parts—protective, reactive, vulnerable, and wise. In relationships, these parts often clash, leaving partners caught in repetitive cycles of anger or withdrawal. By learning to notice and speak from these parts with compassion, couples create emotional safety. You’ll learn to respond instead of react—listening with curiosity rather than defense—so deeper connection becomes possible.

Vulnerability as a Relationship Skill

Most couples don’t struggle because they don’t love each other — they struggle because vulnerability feels risky. When emotions run high, people protect themselves with shutdown, sarcasm, defensiveness, anger, or staying “only in logic.” Those strategies make sense; they were built to survive earlier experiences. But they also block connection.

In this work, vulnerability isn’t about oversharing or performing intimacy. It means being willing to say the harder thing underneath the reaction — the fear, the need, the insecurity, the longing. I help couples slow down enough to access that deeper layer and express it without blame or pressure. When partners learn to share openly and respond with steadiness instead of reactivity, the entire dynamic shifts. Conversations become safer, repairs come faster, and the relationship stops feeling like a battlefield.

Vulnerability isn’t weakness. It’s the doorway back to connection.

Ready to take the first step? Let’s get started below!