Why  Kindness  Still  Matters  in  an  Age  of  Outrage
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

Why Kindness Still Matters in an Age of Outrage

In a world fueled by outrage, is empathy a weakness—or our last hope? This blog explores empathy’s role in justice, civilization, and personal growth. Drawing on Stoic philosophy, historical examples, and modern critiques, it argues that empathy isn’t naive—it’s necessary for a functioning, humane society.

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Resistance  Training  for   the  Soul:  Why  the  Hard Way  Might  Be  the  Right  Way
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

Resistance Training for the Soul: Why the Hard Way Might Be the Right Way

Comfort may feel safe, but it’s secretly limiting your growth. In this deep dive into resistance, we explore how fear, discomfort, and hesitation are not signs of failure—but invitations to grow. Learn how embracing discomfort can train your nervous system, build resilience, and unlock the life you actually want.

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The Great Rewiring: How Smartphones Transformed Childhood and the Brain
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

The Great Rewiring: How Smartphones Transformed Childhood and the Brain

Between 2010 and 2015, smartphones and social media rewired childhood, altering brain development, social skills, and mental health. Jonathan Haidt calls this the "Great Rewiring." He offers bold, research-based rules to help families and communities reclaim childhood in an age of digital overwhelm.

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Future  You:  How  to Bargain  with  the  Future to  Become  Your  Best  Self
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

Future You: How to Bargain with the Future to Become Your Best Self

Discover how to build a relationship with your future self using Stoic wisdom and modern psychology. Learn practical tools like future self-journaling, the 10-10-10 rule, and the identity filter to make choices today that align with your best self tomorrow. Start closing the gap between who you are and who you want to be.

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Self-Pity in Recovery: A Trauma-Informed Perspective
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

Self-Pity in Recovery: A Trauma-Informed Perspective

Explore a trauma-informed perspective on self-pity in early recovery. Rather than labeling it a character defect, this article reframes self-pity as a protective response to unresolved grief and attachment wounds, offering a more compassionate and integrated path to healing, accountability, and lasting change.

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Consistency,  Outrage,  and the  Mirror
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

Consistency, Outrage, and the Mirror

A Stoic reflection on political discourse, selective outrage, and consistency in public values. This article explores how emotional reactivity undermines truth and examines modern issues through the lens of Stoicism to promote integrity over partisanship.

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Breaking  the  Cycle:  Recognizing  Codependency  and  Enabling  in  Relationships
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

Breaking the Cycle: Recognizing Codependency and Enabling in Relationships

Codependency and enabling can keep addiction alive by shielding loved ones from consequences. Protecting, keeping secrets, making excuses, or avoiding the topic may feel like support—but it often fuels addiction. Breaking free means setting firm boundaries, following through, and practicing detachment with love. Learn how to recognize enabling behaviors and foster healthier relationships.

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Healing  from  Childhood  Trauma:  A  Guide  for   Adult  Children  of ADDICTION AND DYSFUNCTION
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

Healing from Childhood Trauma: A Guide for Adult Children of ADDICTION AND DYSFUNCTION

Growing up with an alcoholic parent leaves lasting emotional scars. Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACoAs) often struggle with anxiety, self-doubt, and unhealthy coping mechanisms. Healing begins by understanding past trauma, unlearning survival patterns, and nurturing the inner child. Learn how ACA meetings, recovery principles, and self-compassion can help break the cycle and foster lasting growth.

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free  won’t:  using your  prefrontal  cortex  veto
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

free won’t: using your prefrontal cortex veto

Are our choices truly our own—or are they shaped by fate and unconscious brain processes? This post explores the debate between free will and determinism, weaving together Stoic philosophy, neuroscience, and practical tools to build self-awareness, agency, and moral responsibility in everyday life.

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From  Scorekeeping  to Radical  Generosity: Rethinking  Modern Relationships
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

From Scorekeeping to Radical Generosity: Rethinking Modern Relationships

Ditch fairness and embrace radical generosity with the 80/80 marriage model by Kaley and Nate Klemp. Learn how to move beyond scorekeeping, redefine roles, and deepen connection—both emotionally and sexually. Build a thriving relationship based on teamwork, transparency, and shared success.

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