Healing  from  Childhood  Trauma:  A  Guide  for   Adult  Children  of ADDICTION AND DYSFUNCTION
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

Healing from Childhood Trauma: A Guide for Adult Children of ADDICTION AND DYSFUNCTION

Growing up with an alcoholic parent leaves lasting emotional scars. Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACoAs) often struggle with anxiety, self-doubt, and unhealthy coping mechanisms. Healing begins by understanding past trauma, unlearning survival patterns, and nurturing the inner child. Learn how ACA meetings, recovery principles, and self-compassion can help break the cycle and foster lasting growth.

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free  won’t:  using your  prefrontal  cortex  veto
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

free won’t: using your prefrontal cortex veto

Are our choices truly our own—or are they shaped by fate and unconscious brain processes? This post explores the debate between free will and determinism, weaving together Stoic philosophy, neuroscience, and practical tools to build self-awareness, agency, and moral responsibility in everyday life.

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From  Scorekeeping  to Radical  Generosity: Rethinking  Modern Relationships
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

From Scorekeeping to Radical Generosity: Rethinking Modern Relationships

Ditch fairness and embrace radical generosity with the 80/80 marriage model by Kaley and Nate Klemp. Learn how to move beyond scorekeeping, redefine roles, and deepen connection—both emotionally and sexually. Build a thriving relationship based on teamwork, transparency, and shared success.

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Allowing Your Emotions: Why Feeling is the First Step Toward Healing
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

Allowing Your Emotions: Why Feeling is the First Step Toward Healing

Feeling overwhelmed by emotions? You're not alone. This article explores why allowing emotions—not avoiding them—is key to healing. Learn how emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and vulnerability can help you break the cycle of suppression and reconnect with your authentic self. Start feeling to begin healing.

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The Stoics on Forgiving and releasing a grudge
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

The Stoics on Forgiving and releasing a grudge

Epictetus teaches that when others do wrong, we should respond with understanding, not anger. He believed harmful actions come from ignorance, not malice. By practicing empathy and self-control, we align with Stoic values and maintain inner peace, even in the face of injustice or offense.

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Breaking  Free  from  the King  Baby  Syndrome  in  Recovery
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

Breaking Free from the King Baby Syndrome in Recovery

Learn how the King Baby syndrome sabotages addiction recovery and emotional growth. Discover the traits, inner conflict, and recovery tools needed to overcome this immature ego state and embrace lasting sobriety through humility, self-awareness, and 12-Step principles.

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When  Good  Enough  Sex  is Enough:  Rethinking Expectations  in  Relationships
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

When Good Enough Sex is Enough: Rethinking Expectations in Relationships

Many couples struggle with sex, but obsessing over what’s missing often makes things worse. Unrealistic expectations create pressure, leading to frustration and disconnection. Instead of chasing an idealized sex life, couples can focus on what’s fulfilling and sustainable. Whether that means embracing "good enough" sex, deepening intimacy, or exploring alternatives, honesty is key.

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Handling  Your  Partner’s Bad  Mood  Without  Losing  Yourself
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

Handling Your Partner’s Bad Mood Without Losing Yourself

When your partner is in a bad mood, it’s easy to take it personally. But true emotional resilience comes from differentiation—the ability to stay grounded without absorbing their emotions. Learn how to support your partner without losing yourself, set healthy boundaries, and navigate emotional space with trust and respect. Strengthen your relationship by balancing empathy with self-care.

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Embracing  Uncertainty: How  to  Thrive  in  an  Unpredictable  World
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

Embracing Uncertainty: How to Thrive in an Unpredictable World

Life is full of uncertainty, from relationships to careers and major life decisions. While we crave clarity, certainty is often elusive. Learning to navigate uncertainty with confidence can prevent paralysis and open new opportunities. By focusing on what we can control, accepting change, and trusting ourselves, we can make decisions with resilience and move forward with purpose.

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Why  Letting  Go  of  Being Right  Can  Save  Your Relationships
Brian Granneman Brian Granneman

Why Letting Go of Being Right Can Save Your Relationships

Conflict in relationships isn’t about winning—it’s about understanding. The need to be right damages connections, fostering blame, defensiveness, and emotional distance. Instead, shift your focus to empathy, collaboration, and mutual respect. Letting go of control and prioritizing connection over ego strengthens trust and love. Stop arguing to win—start listening to heal.

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